When I decided to become a full-time homemaker, my house was a disaster. Rooms need painting and decorating. There’s cooking and cleaning. There’s 15 years worth of purging to do.
Excuses and Expectations
My house got in this state because I had unrealistic expectations and I made excuses. I was working hard at my job. I thought “When I get home, I deserve to relax” and “I need to hold on to all this stuff for my next, child, nephew, grandchild”.
I thought if I was home all day, my house would be immaculate. It wasn’t, and I thought I was a failure.
I started looking at the big picture. What are my family’s values and goals? How am I helping them achieve that. What is the minimum acceptable? Rather than trying to determine if I had succeeded, I decided to determine if I failed.
My family is very active. We participate in many activities. For us, doing things is very important. It’s more important for us to be out doing something fun than home cleaning. It’s more important for us to be allowed do stuff that makes a mess in our house than it is to be clean and neat. It’s more important for us to grow vegetables than a lawn.
- clean clothes and dishes.
- rooms tidy enough to walk through.
- a house that is clean enough that we don’t get sick.
- breakfast, lunch, dinner, and tea.
- Activities to do
- Supplies for activities
My Roles and responsibilities
Now I can figure out my roles and responsibilities
- Plan activities
When I feel overwhelmed, it helps me to fall back to dishes, laundry, food. Once that’s running smoothly, I can build on it.